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40 THINGS I’VE LEARNED AT 40: #4

In Vegas, I said “YES”

And was “punk’d” by Paula Abdul & Howie Mandel

#4   You should say “YES” as much as possible. Don’t be naive about it; get whatever information you need to feel that you’re not being harmed/used/taken advantage of.  But don’t take too long, and realize that “YES” has many actions & consequences — both good & bad — that no amount of research could anticipate.  And that’s kind of the point.

I got to be on NBC primetime.

And you best believe I got the ring off Paula’s hand!

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40 THINGS I’VE LEARNED AT 40: #5

#5  Keep pride in its place.  We waste alot of time in arguments over trivial things that spin out of control because we just have to win.  Sometimes, just agree to disagree.  Or admit that both sides don’t have all the information or insight.  Or let the other side win, if it’s something truly inconsequential.   If you’re right, you’re right, whether or not the other side knows or admits it.  And you might be wrong.  Let it go.

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40 THINGS I’VE LEARNED AT 40: #6

Cousins!

My cousin Nathan inspires me, and I just hope I’ve been a good role model for him.

#6  You influence more people than you realize.  It’s surprising how many people look up to you or follow your example.   Be aware that people who you would want to set a good example for — younger relatives, for example, or even your peers — pay attention to how you act and what you say.  Don’t change who you are for them, but when given opportunities to take positive courses of action, take them, knowing that you could be inspiring someone without you even knowing it.  What do you want to show them?

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40 THINGS I’VE LEARNED AT 40: #7

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#7  Go with your gut. It’s usually right, especially if you have a bad feeling about something.

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40 THINGS I’VE LEARNED AT 40: #8

#8  Everyone takes their own route to get to where they are supposed to be.  Others may take a different path and get to the same place we are, but  no path is the correct one or the best one.  And there’s no timeline.  You don’t have to be at a certain place in your life by a certain time.  You’ll get where you need to be following your own route.  It is less important how or when someone gets to a point where their route intersects with ours, and more important that we support each other from that point on in our journeys.